Saturday, 18 August 2012

Summary Of My Dating History

I've been reading some new blogs recently - it's the first time in a while that I've sought out new blogs to add to my Reader.  It's very cool having new posts arriving more frequently to read!  When I read an interesting recent post on a blog where I'm not familiar with the back-story, I find it tempting to try to read lots of previous posts so that I'll understand the context better.  Occasionally I've read entire blogs to catch up with the present, although of course this can be time-consuming!

It got me to thinking: if somebody chanced on my blog, how easy or difficult would it be to piece together my history?  As I've always thought of this as a dating blog, I thought it might be interesting to write a brief history of my dating life, so here goes:

1979:  Born.
1980-81:  Learning to talk, but not yet familiar with terms like Girl, Date or Emotional Co-Dependency.
1982-85:  Apparently I was a bit of a ladies' man at this age.  I had female friends and a cool haircut and I've even seen a photo where I'm wearing a red sleeveless top and look like I'm auditioning for Baywatch.
1986-89:  Girls are yuck.  Also, by this point I clearly do not resemble David Hasselhoff.
1990-91:  Most girls are yuck, but there's one who I like seeing and being around.  Not going to tell her though.
1992-93:  Maybe quite a few girls aren't yuck.  Especially another one in particular.  Also not going to tell her.  Some of my friends seem to be making progress ahead of me.
1994-95:  Whoops - I was very wrong about girls ever being yuck.  Girls are very interesting.  There are lots of cute ones at my school.  I have no idea how to interact with them.  Some guys do seem to know how.  Bastards.
1996:  Major crush.  Current plan: don't chase any girl apart from her.  Also: don't chase her.  Poor plan.
1997-98:  Start university.  Even more good-looking young women.  Even a few female friends.  But still not learning the art of the chase.  Increasing feeling that I'm becoming a grown-up in all areas other than this one.
1999-2000:  Manage to tell a few women that I think they're good-looking.  Not reciprocated so far, but still an important step to have made.
2001:  Progress somehow stalls, partly due to working night shifts in random post-uni job.
2002:  Push myself to try online dating.  Good idea.  Go on a few dates.  Mixed experiences, but experiences nonetheless.
2003:  More online dates either side of an on-again-off-again relationship - my first, and definitely another mixed but valuable experience.
2004:  New relationship with someone met offline.  Gets off to great start.
2005-09:  Initially great relationship unfortunately descends through good to mixed to difficult to daily struggle.
2010:  Relationship ends.  Stuck living together for six months afterwards until house sold. Thoroughly tough year.
2011-12:  Accept challenge of date with another dating blogger.   Good date leads to more good dates and relationship with said blogger - happily still ongoing.

Friday, 17 August 2012

Brief Update

Well, my "final post" was eight months ago, and really I'd just about stopped writing posts eight months before that, but so far I've never quite stopped reading blog posts.  After all, that was how my time in blogworld started, and I really liked the corner of it which I happened to land in.  So I thought I'd post a brief update of how things are going for me.

18 months on from our blogger-meets-blogger date, things are still going well with LB, which is great. She was stuck in the USA for a while in early 2012, which wasn't so great, but happily she's been back here in London for several months. I've been sharing a flat with her and her two cats, who are mostly nice and occasionally nuts. One of them used to hiss and swipe at me when I walked past, but now follows me around trying to get petted. The other one has recently taken to eating his own puke. Maybe his cat food tastes better second time around.

Other things in my life are going OK too, but this blog was rarely about those things anyway - it was always intended to be a dating blog, but does an eighteen-month relationship still count as dating? It certainly doesn't provide the same kind of blogging material as messy dating experiences like slow fades, sudden disappearances, wildly inaccurate dating photos and pregnancy hoaxes - but that's probably a good thing.

I've been doing a bit more blog reading recently and it's great to see that some of my old favourite blogs are still going strong, such as Simply Solo, Just Saying, thoughts simply arise, My Dating Hangovers and Something She Dated. Maybe I can find some new favourites out there too! But it's sad to see no more posts from others like how very lucky to be a girl, snafu and International Woman Of Mystery. And what ever happened to that other awesome blog I used to read avidly - something to do with life beginning at thirty?